Relationships in the Grhastha Ashram
by HH Bhakti Vidya Purna Swami (Gurukul Maharaja)

August 10th, 2007 Editor

  Jaya Radha Madhava (8:58) Downloads: http://www.sivaramaswami.com/?p=1620

  Class Pt. 1 (40:38) Downloads: http://www.sivaramaswami.com/?p=1620

HH Bhakti Vidya Purna Swami’s class from New Vraja Dhama, Hungary. This is Pt 1:
The concept of relationship comes from the spiritual world.
Masculine and feminine principle and their natures.
Sankarsana, Aniruddha, Pradyumna and Vasudeva and sambandha-abhideya-prajoyana in connection to relationships.
A man leads by first doing what he wants the wife to do.
We deal with everything according to it’s nature except for people.
If we follow Krishna’s rules marriage is no longer maya.
Women start fights due to a sense of insecurity.

Relationships (cont’d)

August 11th, 2007 Editor

  Pt. 2 (51:05) Downloads: http://www.sivaramaswami.com/?p=1621

  Pt. 3 (45:29) Downloads: http://www.sivaramaswami.com/?p=1621

Parts 2 & 3 of Bhakti Vidya Purna Maharaja’s talk on Relationships in the Grhastha Ashram, from yesterday’s class in NVD:
We often have strength in philosophy but not in culture.
How to resolve an argument.
When attraction crosses reason it becomes attachment. When attachment deepens consideration appears.
Srila Rupa Goswami’s explanation of how relationships deepen.
The principles applied to the guru-disciple relationship.
Women without men’s support.
A man’s role is to operate the relationship; this is what women want.
A man takes the leading role in a relationship by properly performing the activities he wants the wife to do
To go back to Godhead, you have to learn the same lesson in the grhastha ashram as the brahmacari has to learn in his ashram; if you want the marriage to work, and if you want to go back to Godhead, you have to learn the lesson.
The culture works as well today as it did 5,000 years ago, because the principles are the same.
If you don’t know the science of Krishna consciousness, how will you be peaceful?
Understanding the statement, “in Kali-yuga men are like women and women are like men.”
Unless the attitude is right, it is hard to see things in their traditional form.
Even if a woman is performing male duties (ie: management), her nature doesn’t change.
Women generally end up alone; men have a nasty habit of dying first
Women are four times more clever than men: “clever” means practical intelligence.
In old age, women tend to become more reclusive and simple; the mode of goodness is actually very important to women.
Hladini potency reflects goodness; the feminine nature is situated in goodness.
Women deal in “the moment,” not past, not future — it only takes 1/11th of a second to start an argument.
“If you can successfully live with a woman, you can deal with an empire” — men can learn so many good qualities from marriage.

Conclusion of Bhakti Vidya Purna Maharaja’s talk on Relationships, from Friday’s class in NVD:
http://www.sivaramaswami.com/?p=1638

A man’s role is to operate the relationship; this is what women want.
A man takes the leading role in a relationship by properly performing the activities he wants the wife to do
To go back to Godhead, you have to learn the same lesson in the grhastha ashram as the brahmacari has to learn in his ashram; if you want the marriage to work, and if you want to go back to Godhead, you have to learn the lesson.
The culture works as well today as it did 5,000 years ago, because the principles are the same.
If you don’t know the science of Krishna consciousness, how will you be peaceful?
Understanding the statement, “in Kali-yuga men are like women and women are like men.”
Unless the attitude is right, it is hard to see things in their traditional form.
Even if a woman is performing male duties (ie: management), her nature doesn’t change.
Women generally end up alone; men have a nasty habit of dying first
Women are four times more clever than men: “clever” means practical intelligence.
In old age, women tend to become more reclusive and simple; the mode of goodness is actually very important to women.
Hladini potency reflects goodness; the feminine nature is situated in goodness.
Women deal in “the moment,” not past, not future — it only takes 1/11th of a second to start an argument.
“If you can successfully live with a woman, you can deal with an empire” — men can learn so many good qualities from marriage.